My son’s the most precious thing to me; he’s changed me from being selfish to selfless. – Ricardo Antonio Chavira

The Purpose. . .

My Prince.

Hey guys! I am back, but this time I am touching on the subject of being a mother. My son will be a year in January, and I’m constantly learning, evolving, messing up, and so much more on this journey of motherhood. One thing is for sure though; being a mother is teaching me more about myself daily. The biggest lesson for me so far is one that seems to be ongoing: I have to become a Queen to raise a Prince. The purpose of this blog is to talk about how it is as a parent to become better versions of ourselves for our kids. 

The Truth

Young Miya on the left, 5 Day old David on the right.

You hear it all the time, that nobody is really ever ready for parenthood…or at least that’s what my parents tell me. I’d like to think that some people are more prepared than others though, mentally, physically, and emotionally. As for me, I’m going to be transparent with you just like I have always been: I might have planned to get pregnant, but I was nowhere near ready to actually have a child. Hell, some might say I still struggle in the department of being ready. I think it’s deeper than just not being fully prepared…I think it had to do more so with how I viewed myself.

Acknowledging & Aligning My Crown

A confident selfie, before pregnancy.

I have to admit, I had higher self-esteem prior to becoming pregnant and my son being born. I also walked around with a purpose, had a job that I loved, and my relationship…well it had its ups and downs but they all do. While carrying my son and after he arrived however, I kinda lost myself. Here I am a new mommy & wife…supposedly super-woman of my household, feeling like nothing less than insignificant. It took almost 9 months for me to realize that I have a crown. For me to realize that I am a young black queen now responsible for keeping my King afloat and raising a Prince. Self-pity, low self-esteem, postpartum depression, all of these things were constantly knocking off my crown. I had to boss up and realize that I have royalty inside my DNA, and I’m partially responsible for passing that onto my son. So things had to change.Some things are finally changing.

So In Conclusion…#BossUp!

The reason that I wrote this post is to acknowledge the mothers. Sometimes mommies lose themselves after having a kid; I know that I did. I forgot who I was…and that wasn’t fair to myself, my husband, or my son. How can I represent my family and I don’t know how to get in tune with myself? I can’t. Nowadays, I force myself to take some time for me. I remember that self-love is important, and in order to be the best for my family…I have to be the best version of me. Everyday, I have to make the decision to boss up. No matter what changes in your life, I encourage you to do the same.

 

A recent picture of me, deciding to embrace the current version of me.

Can you relate to this post? Let’s hear all about it in the comments!

8 thoughts on “I Got Royalty Inside My DNA”

  1. I love it!! I’m actually on this journey myself!! I have learned when you take care of yourself you’re are able to better take care of your family. We represent our children just as they represent us. It’s impossible to pour from an empty cup! Love this girl and keep it up!

    1. Charity,

      Thank you for the words of encouragement and support! It means a lot to know that a mother figure I look up to such as yourself happens to be on the same journey. It goes to show me just how relatable this post is to others, which is what I always aim for!

  2. This is beautiful. I can relate in many of the same areas. Keep your head because you’re doing great Mommy, aka Beautiful Black Queen! ❤

    1. Meeka,

      Thank you so much for taking the time out to read! I love the fact that you can relate to this post; because as mommies I think that we often feel alone in many of our struggles. I will keep going, and just know that you’re doing an amazing job as well!

  3. I love this post!! It is so true that after becoming a Mommy you have to learn how to be you again. I’m still trying to figure that one out. Not that you change but you are less of who you were to give that space to mommiehood. So I understand what mean we you say you had to make a change. We can be mommies and stool be sexy, ambitious, and determined to still achieve our own personal success. We just have new motivation.

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