New Wife, Who This?
Hey guys! I know that I have been gone for about a month, but I’m back…and I have a lot to talk about! I think I’m going to start with the topic of being a wife, and how I’m still getting use to it. It’s been 3 years since me and my husband first met, but it’s only been about 5 months that we’ve been married. Not that long, right? Maybe not, but it feels like it’s been forever. I’ve learned so much I’m learning so much, and I want to share some of it with you!
Nothing is Perfect
One of the biggest lessons that I have to remind myself of daily is that nothing is perfect. Now, you would think that this is common sense, right? Wrong. With todays social media presence & all of the “IG picture perfect” couples out there, it’s easy to think that perfect couples out there really do exist! I’m going to be honest, I’ve caught myself being a bit jealous of the couples I follow on social media. After all, we all want that wonderful picture perfect, beautiful life! That’s where I lost focus though, over and over again. I was so busy comparing my life & marriage to others that I started to feel like we had to measure up to some kind of non-existent standard. I know, it sounds crazy. You’d be amazed at how often that happens. A few months back, I completely dissolved a Facebook page that I’ve had since 2006 and redid the remainder of my social media profiles to reflect more business and less personal information. I’ve even deleted anyone that wasn’t business-minded or a business connect. It wasn’t personal, I just needed to shift my focus back to reality and not social media glorifications.
Enjoying Your Partner – Through the Tough Times
For those of you who aren’t married but are in a relationship, I’m sure you can relate to this next part. It’s a hard thing to do to love someone…hell even like someone when tough times arise. When you take those vows though, there is no breakup after a major argument. So…how do you enjoy your partner and love them through the toughest of times? I’m still learning how to do this myself, but let me share a few tips that help me and mines:
- Communicate. This is a difficult one, especially when your other half has made you so upset that you don’t even want to look at them, let alone talk to them. Nevertheless, effective communication is very important. Humans can’t read minds, therefore how are we to know how the other person is feeling or what their intentions were if we don’t speak to them?
- Forgive. This one is just as important as communicating. Personally, I am guilty of holding grudges in the past instead of forgiving my partner. It’s normal to want to stay mad, depending on just how hurt you are by something. But once you learn how to truly forgive and move past things, it will open up avenues to your relationship you didn’t think could exist! The willingness to forgive has to be on both partners, by the way.
- Laugh. Yes, that’s right – laugh. With all that we have to deal with within a relationship and as individuals, it can be easier to cry or express other emotions outside of laughing. Don’t let the weight of the world stop you from finding small things to laugh at with your other half. Whether it’s something on TV, your child saying or doing something funny, or you all making fun or each other (me and my husband are guilty of this lol), learning to laugh and share those laughs with your partner will strengthen your relationship.
At the end of the day, you can either focus on what’s tearing your apart, or what’s keeping you together. – Anonymous.
Whether you are married or in a relationship, I want to hear about how you keep it all together in the comments below!